Quick Tip - Are You a Player or a Victim?
How you speak impacts perception - Issue #40
I was lucky enough to spend a day with Fred Kofman when I was an exec at Yahoo. He was running a leadership offsite for us. He shared a great deal of useful advice and insights that I still use to this day. One moment, in particular, stood out for me.
He was talking about claiming your power. Not just at work, but also generally in life. One way that many of us give up our power daily is to blame others, things, and situations.
It’s not our fault. Something else caused the problem. So, we use victim language that denies responsibility and ownership.
“Sorry I’m late for work. Traffic was terrible this morning!”
“Sorry to leave early, but I have to take this call.”
“I know we’re late, but the babysitter didn’t arrive on time.”
While this all may be true, you give up your power when you play the victim. You lose control every time that you deny responsibility.
If you want to be a player and claim your power, change how you speak. Accept responsibility, and it will alter your perception. I’v…