Listen now | When we meet people for the first time, they decide how they feel about us in 1/10th of a second. The foundation for becoming more memorable starts with attention. People don’t remember something or someone if their attention isn’t captured in the first place.
Great read. I especially liked the bullet points for likeability.
I would add one more: I always pepper my conversations with the other person’s name. By using their name during transition phrases, the other person feels acknowledged and validated, and that encourages them to like me more.
Great article Larry! I would love to get your perspective on how to be likeable, yet not bending over backwards for others and being a people pleaser. Also, there is the issue of people being “fake” and “trying too hard” when they try to be something they are not because they are striving to be memorable. What is your advice to combat those quandaries?
I think the key thing to remember is that likability doesn't mean being a people pleaser. Just like kindness doesn't equate to weakness.
Strong, confident people are very likable. But, that very confidence means that they know they don't have to be aggressive, domineering, or cruel to get results. They can be pleasant and kind while standing up for what they believe in.
Part of being likable is being authentic, genuine, caring, and dependable. When I think about some of the most likable people that I know, they are also confident, calm, witty, and strong-willed.
Being likable doesn’t require being something that you are not. Well, unless someone is genuinely an unfriendly, uncaring, and unpleasant person to be around. Then, I guess, they really don’t have a chance of being likable. They can try to fake it, but no one likes a fake.
When someone is pretending to be nice, we can tell. When someone fakes being interested in us, it comes across as obsequious, not likable.
This article is quite helpful. They surveyed 1,042 to uncover the most likable personality traits.
Great read. I especially liked the bullet points for likeability.
I would add one more: I always pepper my conversations with the other person’s name. By using their name during transition phrases, the other person feels acknowledged and validated, and that encourages them to like me more.
Thanks, Caelen!
That's a great tip. Using someone's name does help build rapport. Plus, it helps you commit their name to memory! I need a lot of help with that.
Great article Larry! I would love to get your perspective on how to be likeable, yet not bending over backwards for others and being a people pleaser. Also, there is the issue of people being “fake” and “trying too hard” when they try to be something they are not because they are striving to be memorable. What is your advice to combat those quandaries?
Hi Amanda! Thanks for the comment.
I think the key thing to remember is that likability doesn't mean being a people pleaser. Just like kindness doesn't equate to weakness.
Strong, confident people are very likable. But, that very confidence means that they know they don't have to be aggressive, domineering, or cruel to get results. They can be pleasant and kind while standing up for what they believe in.
Part of being likable is being authentic, genuine, caring, and dependable. When I think about some of the most likable people that I know, they are also confident, calm, witty, and strong-willed.
Being likable doesn’t require being something that you are not. Well, unless someone is genuinely an unfriendly, uncaring, and unpleasant person to be around. Then, I guess, they really don’t have a chance of being likable. They can try to fake it, but no one likes a fake.
When someone is pretending to be nice, we can tell. When someone fakes being interested in us, it comes across as obsequious, not likable.
This article is quite helpful. They surveyed 1,042 to uncover the most likable personality traits.
https://socialpronow.com/blog/be-more-likable/
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